Meeting the clergy
Sorting the service
Meeting the priest who will take your service is an important part of the preparation. You will have at least one meeting with them before the rehearsal, and very often two. At this meeting the vicar will run through all your arrangements with you, and depending on the available time, may also make a second appointment with you.
Part of the conversation is simply about you getting to know the vicar a little, and them getting to know you. Part of the conversation is about the content of the wedding service, and its meaning.
What do we talk about?
During this conversation you can expect
- to run through the arrangements you have already made (music, flowers, bells, etc.)
- to discuss the meaning of the wedding service
- to discuss the service sheet (if you are having one)
- to discuss any questions you have
- to explore ways in which the service might reflect your situation
- book the date and time of the rehearsal
If you (normally the bride) are changing your surname after marriage, and wish to have your passport adjusted in advance of your honeymoon, you will need to get a form from the Passport Office and ask the vicar to complete it, so that you can make the appropriate arrangements for a new passport.
What if we have more questions?
It's quite common to think of more questions after having had this meeting. If you have a second meeting planned, then it's often easiest to save the questions for them. If you don't have anything planned, or the question is urgent, then please ring or email.
As questions occur to you, the best thing is to jot them down straight away, and bring a list of your questions to any meetings with the clergy that you have planned.